Religion From the Heart

Nothing to Hide

The divine is within each of us--sure, we know that. But how many of us believe it in our gut? Self-acceptance is one of the toughest spiritual challenges. Sunday night on CBS, a new film, "Front of the Class," offered a rare glimpse into the life of a man who's figured out how to meet that challenge.

"Front of the Class" is the real-life story of Brad Cohen, an award-winning teacher, an outgoing role model of positive energy, and a man with Tourette's Syndrome. The film never mentions religion, but watching it will fill you with spiritual energy.

As the film's executive producer, I'm biased. I met Brad at a diversity conference two years ago and was amazed by how he told his story in front of 1,000 high school students while blurting out loud noises and jerking his neck. And he mesmerized them with disarming honesty--about growing up with no friends, about being punished repeatedly at school for making the noises he couldn't prevent, about being humiliated by teachers who didn't understand him, about being alone.

Except for his mother, who wouldn't let him give up. Ellen Cohen ached for her son and knew instinctively he couldn't control the sounds. She also shared his stigma. At a time when hardly anyone --even doctors--knew of Tourette's, everyone assumed that Brad's tics and noises were wilful. Brad was just a bad kid, and that must be because Ellen was a bad mom.

But she refused to accept the stinging criticism and looked everywhere for another explanation. When Brad was 12, her research uncovered Tourette's and she took it upon herself to educate first her son and then his doctors. And with the newfound confidence of a name for the condition, Elaine and Brad sought out others like themselves. They found a support group in the basement of a church.

That's where Brad revealed the rare spiritual wisdom that has characterized his life. Sitting in that basement, he looked at other "victims" of Tourette's and heard stories of their devastated lives. One after the other was broken by rejection, closed in by embarrassment, controlled by fear.

Brad couldn't relate to them. He saw right away that the people around him had allowed the world to define them by their disability. So right there, at the age of 12, he decided there was only one person who would define him. It wasn't his classmates, it wasn't his teachers, and it wasn't Tourette's. It was him.

Every day since then, he's never missed a chance to explain his condition to anyone interested enough to listen. He hasn't tried to overcome Tourette's. He's accepted it. And as a result, his life and career have been full to overflowing (watch the movie to see what happens).

By accepting Tourette's, Brad has accepted himself--tics, barking noises, and all. His story is not about beating a disability but beating fear. Brad hasn't achieved success despite the odds; Brad has become a joyful and successful human being because of the odds. It took a disability he couldn't hide to release him to be a person with nothing to hide. And when you've got nothing to hide, the spirit soars.

Brad Cohen is proof that the divine is within each of us. It's hard for many of us to accept that. We're so insignificant, we make so many mistakes. Our bodies aren't perfect; our minds aren't even close; our emotions are a tumble. What's divine about that?

But think about it another way: the weaknesses aren't what the divine has created but what we have created. We're the one's who've decided to loathe our bodies. We're the ones who are scared of funny noises. And it's only when we stop all that self-doubt that our true selves have a chance to shine through.

So here's a holiday wish: be like Brad. Accept all that you are--your miraculous gifts and the limitations that may frustrate you.

And after you watch Front of the Class, stop by the mirror and smile. You may find yourself joined with your creator who, from the moment your heart began to beat, has been watching you with love and welcoming you without reservation and loving every noise you ever made.

By Timothy Shriver  |  December 6, 2008; 11:52 AM ET  | Category:  Religion From the Heart
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Tim - thanks for your moving essay. The great neurologist/author Oliver Sachs ('Awakenings', et al) has spoken at some length about Tourette's and it's special limits and frequently accompanying gifts - e.g. tenacity and a certain fearlessness, high intelligence & remarkable musical sensibilities, to name but a few.

The fact that drugs (Haldol) can control the condition seems to be a mixed blessing - the special abilites are often lost along with the less desirable features. I suspect that many with Tourette's simply avoid the drug remedy and live with the downside, as Mr. Cohen seems to have done.

Obviously Brad Cohen is among that number of remarkable people that has transcended his limits in order to excel at something he loves.

Whether one believes in a Creator God or not, there does seem to be something divine in each and every living thing. Whatever that essence may be, adversity seems to bring out the best in many of us, particularly if we have the kind of upbringing and support that nurtures the positive self-image that you speak of here. It seems to me that faith in oneself is where faith begins.

If more of us had the kind of character that your friend Brad seems to possess, it would be a better world indeed.

Thanks again for your typically well-crafted article.

Posted by: persiflage | December 6, 2008 2:28 PM
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And a great job with the movie. Thoroughly enjoyable!!

Posted by: persiflage | December 7, 2008 9:32 PM
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Wow! A very powerful and moving story! The movie was wonderful. My Deaf son also accepts his "disability" as a culture and lifestyle rather that a roadblock. At 10 years old he told me, "I'm Deaf, I'm fine. You are hearing, you are fine. You don't want to be Deaf, and I don't want to be hearing, that is all fine. You aren't broken and neither am I. No worries, mom."

You are amazing...you direct, you produce, you lead an organization of thousands, you write, you share the love of God, you are active in everything, you change the world and you have a perpetual and contageous smile. Is there anything you can't do???

Posted by: DeafRap | December 8, 2008 9:22 AM
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Tourette's is undeniable evidence that we cannot always be held responsible for our behavior. The arrogance of those who believe they are always in charge and in control is the rule. This arrogance is revealed by Tourette's. The mind is the last frontier. Shriver's comments may encourage more pioneers.

Posted by: kengelhart | December 8, 2008 12:45 PM
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THE MIRACLE MEANING OF CHRISTMAS

The true meaning of Christmas is the most profound concept in the history of the universe. Before the incarnation of the divine being, the Logos, that we call Christmas, there were two divine beings in the heavenlies. One of them was in relation to the other as a human father is to his son, thus the names, God the Father and God the Son. When mankind was ready, the Father sent the Son to leave the unimaginable glories of heaven to be born of a virgin on earth as a real human baby. He was still the same divine being he had always been, however, his capabilities were limited by incarnation to those of a mere human being. He grew up in Israel as a normal boy would have then except that he was totally unselfish.

When he reached maturity, he began his teaching and healing ministry. Trying to convey the fact that he was the God who became a man proved extremely difficult then as now. But central to his message then as now was the concept of a newly defined kind of love, divine love, unselfish love, holy love.

His miracles born of love and his radically different emphasis on the profound principles of living in right relationship with the Father was perceived as a serious threat by the apostate religious leaders of that day (then as now), the Pharisees and the Sadducees. So, ultimately they decided to murder him to erase the unbearable tension between his obvious greatness and their relative pusillanimity. However, his murder on "the old rugged cross," set up by rigged court proceedings, made possible the enormous benefits of the atonement (at-one-ment) for all mankind willing to meet the terms of the divine covenant of salvation (Luke 9:23).

The Son's (Logos') incarnation as Jesus was not temporary but rather eternal. A divine being, a true God, permanently divested himself of his divine level of function and all that goes with it to meet the needs of all mankind for a savior, a completely trustworthy teacher of divine truth and an advocate for us with the Father. That is by far the greatest and most powerful theological or philosophical concept in the universe and constitutes the real miracle meaning of Christmas.


Bio.........I am a former atheist. I have a degree in religion from Baylor University and graduate work in theology from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary and also from Conservative Baptist Theological Seminary.

Posted by: ColinCody1 | December 18, 2008 9:25 PM
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