Episcopalians Falling Out of Love
Should conservative Episcopalians who disagree with U.S. church leaders about homosexuality, women's ordination, biblical literalism and other issues leave and form a separate denomination?
Before answering this question, a correction and a note on where I'm coming from.
The question is not a "should." New entities are already formed -- and very effectively rolled out in the media.
As for where I'm coming from, I'm an Episcopalian and a parish priest who has followed this unhappy leave-taking inconsistently. That may be because I live and work in the bubble of New York and the northeast where there has been very little leaving, and where the vast majority of my parishioners at least are only intermittently interested in this story.
That's because on the presenting issues, we have been doing the work over at least a generation of time and have either led or welcomed (or at the very least, accommodated to) new understandings on human sexuality, ordained ministry, and biblical interpretation. Fair or not, we see many of the leavers as having been resistant to doing the work, not just conscientiously differing on the issues.
Further, when I hear or read some of the conservative characterizations of our position I simply don't recognize us. The people I live and work with have done serious theological work and reflection, not simply bowed to some progressive secular agenda. And many of my gay colleagues or parishioners are far more conservative than I am on theological, ethical, social and political matters. As for ordained women, even the conservatives are acknowledging the fact of change and incorporating people and the rich differences women have brought to our highest leadership ranks. (and trying to figure out how to have it both ways in their new outfit).
The really interesting thing about Episcopalians is how we are category breakers: Catholic practice modified by Protestant principle, for example. And we have many living examples of people who won't stand for shallow answers and can perfectly well combine orthodox belief with progressive social policy, to name just one trademark of the Anglican ethos.
So what seems to have happened over time is that some Episcopalians have fallen out of love with others. Some of the least charitable things we say about each other bear all the marks of emotional betrayal you hear in bickering couples and divorce proceedings, and, unfortunately, some of the red/blue cultural divisions the country at large struggles with. All of us have plenty to carry to our next confession.
Once upon a time, the Episcopal Church had some very wide variations in practice and tone -- and certainly of theology -- and we somehow agreed to look the other way. And I deeply believe that the widespread acceptance of gay members and clergy against the loud agony of the minority is just like what happens when someone comes out in a family. Some in families say "we love you the way you are and for who you are" and others say "we're sorry but you are no longer welcome here." Somewhere in between are those who are deeply embarrassed and can't work it through. I've read just enough of the leavers' rhetoric to have heard that cry in and just under the surface of the words.
So, some of our family have set a standard that rules out staying at the table. Could we have managed this better or even averted the leaving? I don't know. But in leaving, our brothers and sisters have walked a well-traveled American road. Honest to God, voluntary religious association and sectarian division are, with apple pie, etc., one of America's contributions to the world.
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William Tully
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December 19, 2008; 8:42 AM ET
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Posted by: sameolddoc | December 21, 2008 9:30 PM
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this was the news after this week. see You next week end. Washington Post, Eleventh Fullfilled, Bursa.
Posted by: congratulations | December 21, 2008 11:43 AM
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"Barack Obama shall be murdered before sworn and Russia shall attack with nuclear missiles to USA" declared by Mormon Professor, as far as i translate, are St Nicholas and St Andreas shall be popular USA wide this year.
Posted by: congratulations | December 21, 2008 11:41 AM
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the chest bones of the journalist were broken, those bones are Bones of Adam that HAnnah has been produced by. HAnnah, as far as i know, is Peace HAppiness and Compassion of MAn. i worry whether the "foot" or right part of the brain of the journalist functions.
Posted by: congratulations | December 21, 2008 11:36 AM
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i talked about the shoes as Williams Bush has a baseball team and he had not his bat by. merry christmas. my friends moved to Ephesus Sirince for mass this week and i stayed in Bursa. hoh hoh hoh.
Posted by: congratulations | December 21, 2008 11:29 AM
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in unity but in branch. the photos of Barack Obama in a local newspaper reminded me Ernest Hemingway. the papers for heaven during crusaders by given by Vatican and Church were "craziness" at school history, but today with this maturity of mine, the papers for CAnaan and Anadolu East of Mediterranean Sea or HEaven and GArden of Eden, from Land Register MAn the Katastrophe, are really encouraging and mindful leading.
Posted by: congratulations | December 21, 2008 11:15 AM
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Manderson -- "It is simply incredible to watch liberal Episcopalians ignore and evade these obvious facts."
What? the fact that majority rules? that what the majority thinks is inherently right? This would apply then, to a lot of things that the majority now considers wrong - discrimination against women and blacks, for instance.
I'd say the majority wised up - and will wise up eventually about homosexuals, too.
Until then, resistant people will point to holy scripture, majority votes or whatever is necessary to root them in their discriminatory practices as long as possible.
Posted by: efavorite | December 21, 2008 9:14 AM
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"Once upon a time, the Episcopal Church had some very wide variations in practice and tone -- and certainly of theology -- and we somehow agreed to look the other way."
This is sad but true. As in so many other aspects of American life, the ability to 'agree to disagree' and get on with life has been lost. When that happens, the only viable option many people find is to bail out.
Of course, 'agreeing to disagree' usually only works when the things we disagree on are left unspoken. There have always been gay people in every denomination, and everyone knew who there were, even if they weren't named openly. They were the 'free-spirited aunts' and the 'confirmed bachelors' in each congregation.
The silence worked for both sides. It allowed gay people to live in society while reducing, (at least a bit) the very real physical and social risk they faced by coming out. It also allowed those who found homosexuality reprehensible (whether for religious reasons or otherwise) to politely carry on as though it did not exist. It may sound hypocritical, but we all do it to some degree in many areas of our lives, and it is what allows us to live shoulder to shoulder reasonably peaceably instead of constantly being at each other's throats.
What has changed in recent years is that gay people are no longer are willing to stay in the shadows and exist behind a wall of language. A majority of Episcopalians has decided that it is their right to live their lives openly, and without sanction from the church.
This puts conservatives in the church in an untenable position, by making it impossible to keep up the attitude that 'if I don't acknowledge them openly it's like they don't exist'. It makes agreeing to disagree impossible, and the result is schism.
Posted by: rossasmith | December 21, 2008 1:54 AM
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It is depressing for me to read the views of liberal Episcopalians on everything that has transpired. At the 1998 Lambeth Conference of Bishops, a conference that occurs every 10 years where basically all the Anglican bishops of the world gather to consult, an OVERWHELMING majority of bishops voted that homosexual relations could not be sanctioned by the Anglican Communion. In this they were, of course, only keeping with the OVERWHELMING consensus of the Catholic, Orthodox, and Protestant churches throughout history. Then, in 2003, the Episcopal Church of the US went ahead with consecrating Gene Robinson, in defiance of the universal practice of the church and the recent decision by the 1998 Lambeth Conference. It is simply incredible to watch liberal Episcopalians ignore and evade these obvious facts.
Posted by: manderson7 | December 20, 2008 9:53 PM
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According to the US Biblical scholar, Morton Smith, of Columbia University, a fragment of manuscript he found at the Mar Saba monastery near Jerusalem in 1958, showed that the full text of St. Mark chapter 10 (between verses 34 and 35 in the standard version of the Bible) includes the passage:
"And the youth, looking upon him (Jesus), loved him and beseeched that he might remain with him. And going out of the tomb, they went into the house of the youth, for he was rich. And after six days, Jesus instructed him and, at evening, the youth came to him wearing a linen cloth over his naked body. And he remained with him that night, for Jesus taught him the mystery of the Kingdom of God".
Posted by: Farnaz2 | December 20, 2008 9:19 PM
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I guess, maybe to just kind of stick more of a conclusion on what I wrote below, is it possible that maybe the Episcopal and Anglican churches are so suddenly shocked to find this radical right wing element claiming disproportional influence *because* there's sort of been an attitude of 'looking the other way' while this stuff developed?
For people claiming to represent ultimate cosmic authority, it seems to my experience that, regardless of sect, there's a lot of claiming by definition to be the nicest people in the world, and 'looking the other way' when this doesn't bear out in practice for, say, queer people.
Posted by: Paganplace | December 20, 2008 1:56 PM
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"Some in families say "we love you the way you are and for who you are" and others say "we're sorry but you are no longer welcome here."
Heh. Is *that* how you bracket what religious homophobia does to families?
The right end of that bracket goes all the way through abuse, harrassment, assault, active sabotage and ongoing attacks on one's life to keep one in permanent poverty, to murder.
Naive of you to frame it that way, Reverend.
People say homophobia is 'defending the traditional family,' ...in fact, it tears families *apart,* and not just in the metaphorical sense.
"Somewhere in between are those who are deeply embarrassed and can't work it through. I've read just enough of the leavers' rhetoric to have heard that cry in and just under the surface of the words."
Frankly, I think religious leaders are in a position to be the ones to say, "The people you try to hurt shouldn't have to wait for *you* to resolve your artificially-induced and religiously-reinforced 'discomfort.' "
If I can offer an outside view: I see a lot of Catholics and Fundies who feel the need to magnify every little disagreement into doom, hellfire, and Apocalypse.... I see a lot of kind of mainstream Protestants who get pretty *vicious* with each other about what seem like trivial, even frivolous, differences from the outside.
I dunno what that is. I hear a lot about this story. Looks like a lot of Fundie-oriented Episcopalians get sent off to Africa and Fundie America, to make converts, they Fundie-ize them, and then come back to claim authority of numbers for policies of frothing about gay people and 'witches' at the more-mature-sounding establishment.
To be a little Wiccan at you, careful what you send out. It comes back snowballed.
Posted by: Paganplace | December 20, 2008 1:38 PM
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"Honest to God, voluntary religious association and sectarian division are, with apple pie, etc., one of America's contributions to the world." And the Lord's people said, "Amen."
Posted by: jeffrey_winter | December 18, 2008 12:07 PM
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Episcopalians, like our body politic, have worked themselves into positions from which there is no retreat and, therefore, no possibility of compromise. Leviticus tells me that homosexulality is an abomination; so is eating a shrimp cocktail. What are we to believe? The die-hards, on both sides, are in control. All they can achieve is to destroy the Church I love.