Susan K. Smith
Senior pastor, Advent United Church of Christ in Columbus, Ohio

Susan K. Smith

Smith, a Yale Divinity School graduate, is a senior pastor of Advent United Church of Christ in Columbus, OH. Her latest book is "Crazy Faith: Ordinary People; Extraordinary Lives."

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Victory at Any Cost? God Help Us

My mother used to tell all five of us kids that if we hung out with "bad kids," people would think we were bad, too.

She told my brothers that if they hung out with kids who were stealing, and those kids got caught stealing, my brothers would go to jail, too, just because they were there.

"It's not fair," she said, "but it's life. It's called guilt by association."

But instead of being vilified if we broke ties with someone -- if or once we found out their lives and values were not in line with ours -- we were lifted up for having had the strength, courage to move away from them and move on.

It showed strength of character and wisdom, my mother would say.

That being my background, then, I cannot for the life of me understand why so much is being made of who the current presidential and vice presidential candidates USED to associate with.

I would bet every single human being has had a relationship with a person he or she later found out was not all that he or she purported to be. Look at all the women who fall for guys who just plumb forgot to tell them they were married.

It takes a while to get to know people, and certainly to know all they stand for and what they've done. That's a rule of life. Many to most people learn what is "right" by experiencing "wrong" for themselves.

Therefore, I think it's a cheap shot to pick at and make an issue of people candidates USED to associate with.

The positive of having made wrong decisions in the past is that we recognize they were wrong decisions and made different ones. It seems to me that a person's associations are relevant if a person is found to have questionable morals or values, and a break isn't made.

Is everyone who liked Newt Gingrich deserving of scrutiny? After all, didn't he leave his wife when she was sick? And should no person who liked the late Sen. Strom Thurmond ever run for president? After all, he was a rabid racist.

People change. We have different friends at different times in our lives. Much of the time we spend in growing to maturity is spent making wrong turns, bad decisions and having wrong friends, in our quest to find our own voices and purpose.

In this election season, when people are literally crumbling, crashing and burning before our eyes because they don't have money enough to live, it is as much a disgrace and insult as it is insensitive to concentrate on who people used to hang out with (if it was that intense a relationship) instead of on how we can make a horrible situation better.

I might be a dreamer, but I have to believe that the candidates will make much more of an impression if they at least pretend this race for the presidency is about caring about the American people, and not just about the acquisition of raw power.

If a person is hungry, I tell my congregation, for goodness' sake, don't pray with them first. Feed them.They're hungry and they need food. Yes, they need God, too,but they need to be fed from a plate before they will even want to be fed from the Bible.

This is a similar situation. The question for me is: are the candidates hanging out with rogues now? (I mean, people they and everyone else know to be rogues.) If they are, then yes, that's a problem, but if they are not, if they've hung out with questionable people in the past but have changed course now, then who the heck cares about their past associations?

I personally resent them all for bringing this type of foolishness into the campaign. If the McCain people think that slinging mud is the only way to win, then that's a problem, because in the time spent mudslinging, we don't get to hear what he's going to do about the economy.

And if the Obama people match McCain's tactics, going tit for tat, then is the senator from Illinois really a candidate of change?

McCain, Obama, Biden and Palin ... wake up. The people of America are in deep distress; they are crying out in desperation. Quite frankly, we don't have time for such insensitive foolishness. If you cannot win on the issues, the economy being THE BIGGEST issue, then you simply do not deserve to win.

By Susan K. Smith  |  October 8, 2008; 1:24 PM ET
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Amen.

Posted by: djw531 | October 17, 2008 1:24 PM
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So be it. Enough said. Amen. And Amen.

Posted by: rahmundo_imani | October 16, 2008 3:06 AM
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Dr. Rev. Smith,

Thank you for "Victory at What Cost? Address the real issues please!

Character assassination in the present senario is a defenes mechanism. Hence, the republican party not only underestimated the presidential potential of Mr. Obama, they also failed to prepare resolutions for the real problems. As a result, attacking Mr. Obama covers for their lack of intervention strategies to address the problems of ALL people.

Besides, who are we to decide who is good and who is evil? Who are we to say who one can interact with? Are the individuals responsible for the longtime financial distruction, that appears to be recent, good or evil? Should everyone who know members of FIG separate themselves? Should you move because your neighbor is a gang memeber? Is Mr. McCain a good man for addressing his professional collegue as "That One?"

Do we dare to learn and grow by associating with people who are different from us?

There is no point in further addressing Mr. Obama's relationships because GOD, PAID THE PRICE, AND LOVES EVERYONE, including Mr. Obama, his friends, coworkers, pastor, neighbor, fellow board members,family, etc.

There are real issues that need to be addressed, our country is in turmoil.

Thank you for the article!

PC

Posted by: SeeWhatIAmSaying | October 13, 2008 1:35 AM
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It just surprises me that this country continues to chase it's tail into destruction. I was on fire for "That One" when this all began but it appears they are all riding in the same boat up the river to no where.

Posted by: s2scarlett | October 10, 2008 10:49 AM
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Pagan,

Give me a break about the Keating Five. There was an investigation and McCain was found to have committed bad judgment. Period. That was the last meeting he took with that group. (As opposed to your Democrat buddy). To think that crap like that doesn't go on on both sides of the aisle is naive.

Also, where is all the talk about Iraq? We heard it nonstop from the liberal faithful for months and now we don't hear a peep. Maybe because things have turned the corner before the Dems could cut, run and hide? Or maybe the Dems have just found something different to blame. That's it. Let's blame all our financial woes on someone else. It's John McCain's fault. He's responsible for your lot in life. Don't you get it? He was chummy with Mr. Gramm who passed the deregulation bill and got us in this mess. The fact that the bill was supported by then President Bill Clinton and current VP candidate Joe Biden is irrelevent!

Posted by: globalone | October 9, 2008 7:58 PM
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Very good point, Rev. Smith. Trying to keep this campaign on the high road has proven very difficult. I think Senator Obama has done an excellent job at keeping our focus on the major issues of the times, especially the economy. He is demonstrating the kind of leadership we need to get through this challenging time and still retain the values that have made this country great.

Posted by: hamiltongyi | October 9, 2008 5:26 PM
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I repeat, what McCain did for the Keating Five is a bit more involved than 'association.'

These are Roveian tactics of 'attack where you're weak,' ...and when that doesn't pan out, start saying, 'The problem is government, everyone's just as bad.'

Swiftboating and pointing out that candidates aren't who and how they present themselves as being are two very different things.

Smears based on 'associations' are meant to cast unsubstantiated doubt. Questioning someone's previous actions in politics is not the same as this.

Don't be fooled on that score. If Palin wants to get up and elucidate exactly how she plans to bring what she learned in her *current* churches to her policies, then, let's hear it. Instead, she hides the radicalism she's displayed in office, and has pledged not to take interviews where hard questions about her knowledge and fitness for the highest office in the land might be asked.

Biiig difference.

Posted by: Paganplace | October 9, 2008 2:29 PM
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Dr Smith,
I feel that this is by design, because the average person has a tendency to remember the negative ad campaigns as oppose to positive ones. By Barack Obama being an African American Male, there are already some misinformed people with preconceive thoughts that will make a rumor more believable in their perception. Perception is reality for people and if in your mind you are already misinformed; a rumor which confirms your thoughts is very believable to a person without having any true verifiable evidence. The opposing political party can take advantage of this by leaking to the press unverified information. Therefore,the rumor diverts the attention of the true issues at hand. This creates uncertainty in a time when things are increasingly becoming more desperate. Should it be problem that a candidate is around an individual known to be a rogue? I don’t think so; but in politics you have to be aware of the company you keep because of these foul tactics. African American Male who have historically been labeled and stereotyped as “Criminals”. This is a pretty dirty tactic and once the rumor is out there; then candidates have to go into “damage control mode” to debunk the rumors. A true waste of time when the focus should be on the state of our economic crises. It’s sad

Posted by: Kay30 | October 9, 2008 12:14 PM
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This is a powerful (and true) piece. Unfortunately, however, in this "climate" of the 2008 Presidential Election Season, reasonable thinking is not what is driving the electorate.

Posted by: Jamila1 | October 9, 2008 8:04 AM
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Hey Rev Sue:

I say amen to that too! How is it that somebody from one's past can be cut and pasted to you and lower your ratings? Lately there is buzz at CNN that McCain should revive Rev. Wright again to get at Obama--please!!!!! Enough is enough! the original sound-byte was the lowest of lows. However, I understand that this is politics and Wright was the weapon of choice. If our associations can bring us down, that may be something to think about. It is no wonder Jesus was hassled about the company he kept. How many times have we hung out with somebody to find out later or too late that they were not of the same ilk as we? I keep hearing Dr. King's words, "content of character" ring in my spirit--that's an internal not up for scrutiny of fickle polls.

I once heard a campaign strategist say that this is what they do: find a flaw/associate and make it/them stick such that the opponent spends the majority of the campaign trying to unstick or manage distance from it or them. The goal is that if it sticks, the opponent is toast! It is unfortunate that politics made Obama have to distance himself from Rev. Wright. It proves again that hegemony hates prophets. I still remember Dukakis losing the presidential race just because Willie Horton's photo stuck to him like glue--that's politics they say. It has always amazed me how one candidate seeks to elevate themselves by deflating the other. I pray that all will reamin sane and do the right thing, but I also realize that it is the nature of politics to win by any means necessary--even if it's amoral. Thanks for raising the issue!

Ozzie Smith

Posted by: jr4111checkitout | October 8, 2008 11:08 PM
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