Chelsea Clinton and Marc Mezvinsky: Our national joy
By Sally Quinn
Chelsea Clinton is getting married and I want to know everything about the wedding.
I'm dying to know about the dress, the table settings, the wedding cake, the guest list (my friends who are invited have sealed their lips -it's so frustrating!) the band, the menu, every little detail. I want to know about Chelsea's relationship with Marc, when they first decided they were in love. I want to know how the parents get along with their prospective daughter and son-in-law and with each other. I'm fascinated by how Chelsea and Marc managed to become such normal, sane, successful and graceful people despite all that they have gone through. I'm curious about what kind of a life they will have. Will they go into politics or have they had enough? Do they like all of the publicity? Even though they have grown up with the kind of scrutiny no human should have to live with, will they go underground and live relatively private lives from now on?
I'm amazed and deeply admiring that they have managed to keep so much of the planning under wraps. This wedding has been a journalist's nightmare. I've been getting frantic calls from reporters in the middle of the night asking if I've heard anything. The gossip and rumors have been rampant. A crazy person left a message on my voice mail at the Post saying that she knew for a fact that the Chinese government was bankrolling the wedding and that the Clintons were mere tools of the Chinese. Obama was asked about the wedding on "The View" and said he had not been invited. I have been asked if I think this is a snub. No it is not. The Obamas are not close personal friends of the Clintons, even though she is secretary of state. If the Obamas went to the wedding it would be all about the them and not the bride. Nobody knows that better than the Clintons and the Obamas. My guess is that there was a conversation beforehand in which it was agreed that they would not come.
Does my curiosity make me a voyeur? Is there something wrong with wanting to share in Chelsea's wedding? I don't think so. The former first daughter has become part of our lives. We have grown up with Chelsea. We have watched her mature and grow into a lovely young woman. We have an emotional investment in her, an attachment to her. But more than that, this wedding is not as much about Chelsea as it is about marriage.
So why do I care? Why do we all care?
Because weddings are sacred. Despite the fact that divorce is rampant, weddings give us all hope. Nothing is more joyful than the promise of a lifetime of love. Hillary has already said she and Bill will be very emotional. And well they should be. We cry out of happiness. We cry out of a sense of loss, for there is always a loss when two young people leave their families and become one. We cry out of regret for the things we have not done in our own lives that could have led to greater happiness. We cry out of remorse for the things we should not have done. We cry for the possibilities and the potential the young couple have and the sadness we feel that on some level there will be hardship and disappointment and disillusionment along the way in their lives. We cry because they are in love. We desperately want that to last. We know that it will be a struggle. We cry because we believe in magic. Weddings are magical. They are moments in time that we will never be able to recapture.
There is nothing more touching than two people standing together, pledging to cherish each other forever and meaning it. We so want it to be true. Not just for them but for us as well.
Their faith will be a big factor in this wedding. Chelsea was brought up a Protestant. Marc is Jewish. Rumors abound that there will be a Jewish ceremony, even that Chelsea has converted. Will there be a minister and a rabbi conducting the ceremony. Will there be a "lead religion" in the marriage? How will they raise their children? We'll soon know. How they handle this aspect of their marriage will probably end up being the most important decision they make.
Knowing what we do of Chelsea and Marc, it seems likely that the spiritual aspect of their wedding will be carefully thought out. Bringing couples together when their families come from different religious traditions is very American. 37% of marriages in this country today are interfaith marriages.
This makes the occasion even more hopeful. The marriages of my friends who are interfaith have been hugely successful because each has respected the beliefs of the other. Sometimes there will be a lead religion, sometimes not. Sometimes the children are raised in one faith. Most often the children observe the religious holidays and traditions of both. Sometimes one parent is a nonbeliever and the other parent has a faith. This pluralistic way of respecting both parents and both families has allowed the children to grow up open-minded, informed, educated and respecting of people of all or no faiths rather than narrow their perspectives.
The idea that Chelsea and Marc will join together as Christian and Jew is even more hopeful. It will remind us that the magic we want to believe in exists in all cultures and all beliefs. May they have the happiest of lives.
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Sally Quinn
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July 30, 2010; 2:51 PM ET
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Posted by: sheriffali | August 3, 2010 6:15 AM
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Leave it to Sally Quinn to write such an insightful article. I have been a fan of hers since reading her book, "The Party" many years ago and several times after that. Little has been written about (or spoken about) the fact that this is an inter-faith union, so thank you, Ms. Quinn, for shedding light on the subject. Also, I was happy to hear what she had to say regarding the fact that Mr. Obama did not attend the wedding. She is probably correct when she wrote "my guess is that there was a conversation beforehand in which it was agreed that they would not come". Had Mr. Obama attended, it would have taken the focus off the bride (and groom). I've heard too many silly people say "how rude of the Clintons to not have invited him".... so thank you, Sally, for making sense of it for those who needed it.
Posted by: sabw11 | August 2, 2010 10:55 PM
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At first I thought Ms. Quinn was setting us up for an insightful piece on meaningless celebrity voyeurism. Then I found out it was merely a poorly edited, dreadfully written love note to the rich and powerful.
I think most people fail to share in her assertion that America has genuine personal concern for the welfare of this newly married couple. ("The former first daughter has become part of our lives. We have grown up with Chelsea. We have watched her mature and grow into a lovely young woman. We have an emotional investment in her, an attachment to her.")
Do most of us want them to have a happy marriage? Sure, but we would feel that way about any newlyweds; we do not withhold our good wishes from those who do not share this couple's celebrity status. Or perhaps Ms. Quinn does. I can't tell from such poor writing.
Posted by: TimLF | August 2, 2010 2:03 PM
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I pray for them a prosperous godly life full of healthy children and many friends. May Chelsea take great joy in being a godly wife and mother at home, a strength for the family and the community. We have gone the wrong way a long time, seeking riches and honors, may she have part in realizing the peace God has for us when we want His ways. AMEN
There should be no problem between religions if we believe what is actually written in the word of God.
Jesus Christ was not the false prophet of Deuteronomy 13 who would come and turn people away from God's word, yet Christians have believed the lie that Jesus did away with the word of God called Law through Moses and the Prophets.
Jews can accept Jesus as the Messiah when they ignore Christians and follow what God sent to them in the Torah and Prophets. Jesus fulfilled what God said about forgiveness of sins through blood of an acceptable sacrifice. Psalm 22, Exodus 12, and others clearly show Jesus as the Messiah.
Muslims can accept Jesus because the message through the prophet Muhammad was to follow the whole Bible, judge by Torah and Gospel and four times the Qur'an calls Jesus the Messiah.
In 2 Nephi 29 God revealed He spoke to all nations and commanded them to write it and it would be found to be the same. Oriental religions are told to follow the Law of God and Puranas, the Bible is one.
The way is prepared for unity, when we put aside our self-righteousness and hold closely to the word of God as IT IS WRITTEN.
God commanded one set of Sabbaths of NO WORK for any so we could have unity and not divisions. Ten Commandments of Exodus 20 have the 7th day Sabbath as a weekly reminder of God's creation story; and Leviticus 23 has God's other Sabbaths during memorial feasts. We do not do animal sacrifices now, but we can keep the days of no work. God commanded not to add to or diminish from His word through Moses. Deuteronomy 4:2, 8:3, Matthew 4:4, Luke 16:31; Qur'an Ahmad. Numbers: 5.68, 69; 5.43-51; 42.14-16.
Posted by: MarieDevine | August 2, 2010 1:24 PM
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Divorce rates are only staggering among those who get married young and straight out of high school. Those who wait until they're in their later 20's have a much lower divorce rate.
Posted by: samhedron | August 2, 2010 11:52 AM
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"Their sacred marriage our national joy."
What cloying claptrap - I think I'm going to lose my Cheerios.
Posted by: areyousaying | August 2, 2010 10:50 AM
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"Sometimes there will be a lead religion, sometimes not. Sometimes the children are raised in one faith. Most often the children observe the religious holidays and traditions of both. Sometimes one parent is a nonbeliever and the other parent has a faith."
- Sally Quinn
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That's true in most cases.
Posted by: Jihadist | August 2, 2010 10:40 AM
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"Damn it... I promised myself I wouldn't cry..."
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Awwww....here's a hankie.
Wait, let me have it back.
Sniff. Sniff. Sniff.
Posted by: Jihadist | August 2, 2010 10:35 AM
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National joy my ass - the Clinton girl has done nothing to earn her conspicuousness, save to have been the sole admitted daughter of America's most dissolute president and his androgynous wife. If you wish to focus on truly inspirational marriages, think rather of those 10,000 earnest couples who married yesterday without benefit of $250,000 worth of flowers.
The Clintons, symptomatic of our new aristocracy, are simply a dyad of opportunistic "grab everything in sight" scoundrels who have come to power thanks only to the ignorance and gullibility of the American voter.
Posted by: LeePefley1 | August 2, 2010 5:29 AM
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Damn it... I promised myself I wouldn't cry...
Posted by: PSolus | August 1, 2010 6:47 PM
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I am seriously disappointed in the revealing, goyim wedding dress Chelsea wore, very disrespectful. At least Ivanka Trump, who recently married into a jewish family, had the good sense to tell Vera Wang to design something that would cover up her shoulders.
Mozel tov to Marc for wearing his kippa. But also, why didn't they wait until after sunset/shabbos to have the ceremony? Is this pluralism, too?
Posted by: lilly8 | August 1, 2010 12:10 AM
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Bushs, Clintons, Palins, Cheneys are getting married, getting divorced, seperated, being lesbians and gays, making money with interviews and picture taking, while some of our kids will never have chance for that, because they left their souls and youth somewhere in Iraq and Afghanistan.
Posted by: BOBSTERII | July 31, 2010 1:47 PM
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I am the biggest sap on the planet but this column by Sally Quinn is so over the top it made me want to gag. First of all: "Our national joy"??? Come on, that's so stupid it's almost embarrassing. I have three kids right around Chelsea's age, and two of them are married, so I know how emotional weddings can be for parents, but Ms. Quinn needs to get a grip. She sounds like an immature, goofy teenager gushing about all the details, while over-thinking and over-analyzing every emotion known to man. It's a very strange column. Best wishes to Chelsea and Marc.
Posted by: Carrie7 | July 31, 2010 3:27 AM
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Hyperbole + poor grammar ("Obama's"... really?) = fail
One really gets the sense that you'd like to imply that Chelsea and Marc have gotten to where they are because they happen to be born to successful parents but I suppose that card can't be played, given your own station in life, Ms. Quinn.
Posted by: donna828 | July 30, 2010 9:52 PM
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National joy? Ms.Quinn, your flair for dramatics has taken a new high. I could care less if Chelsea wears a burlap sack, eats vegan, or has a wedding cake made of wheat grass- if this is what is concerning you and causing you such angst - then we have serious problems.
Where was your national joy when Jenna got married? Did you have sleepless night's worried about all those questions? (And let's say remember Jenna was the daughter of a sitting President who elected to have a truly private wedding)
As most Americans clip coupons, grill hot dogs and eat chips as a meal, the "let them eat cake" crowd is enjoy overpriced elitist nonsense. Sally, even for you this is silly.
Posted by: RWells2 | July 30, 2010 8:55 PM
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So, Sally, marriages are sacred, hopeful, magical, etc. From what one can read in Vanity Fair, those sentiments do not always extend to weddings in your own family. Given that, we can go back to the fact that you are indeed a voyeur.
Posted by: dannyshiba | July 30, 2010 8:55 PM
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Surely Miss Quinn and the copydesk know the difference between plurals and possessives?
Posted by: lsajna | July 30, 2010 8:01 PM
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Millions of wedding photos will be distributed internationally, they will brighten up every persons life. Their marriage proves that love can bridge the gap between religions.
Posted by: morristhewise | July 30, 2010 7:27 PM
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Marc is quite an impressive fellow, and I'm certain that he'll make a terrific husband for Chelsea. Just be looking at photos of him, you can't even tell that he's blind.
Posted by: DonkeyMattanza | July 30, 2010 5:59 PM
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I'm not a fan of either of these money grubbing and power-hungry political families, nor their well-connected progeny, but I can't remember when I've read so much sloppy drivel. Is this why so many people are calling Sally "irrelevant" these days?
Posted by: frogland | July 30, 2010 5:11 PM
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I warmly remember during the last Presidential primary season, you and Harry Smith in a video berating Chelsea for not replying to an obnoxious question about her father's sex life and mocking her for for her reticence. I wish your article would have evoked that long term support for the youngest Clinton - is the clip still available?
Posted by: FloydThirsby | July 30, 2010 4:43 PM
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Protestant or Jewish or by whatever denomination one may be associated with, God has always been One. Jesus Christ is the Son of God and God the Son!
God, love and truth is indivisible and we are all connected to God by “faith!” For Chelsea and Marc they have been brought up by loving parents and despite the sometimes difficult situations that occurred, these two people more likely than not, were the nexus that held Mom and Dad together.
They were friends for a long time so they have Philos – “the love between friends.” They are very much in love and became husband and wife, so they have Eros – “the love between man and woman.” They both believe in God and as such, they have Agape – “the love of God.”
It would take much more than religious diversity to make “asunder” what God has joined together. I wish them a truly blessed day and all better tomorrows. May the Lord grant unto them all of the desires of their hearts, that is consistent with God’s will for their lives!