God Expects Us to Be Civil to Each Other
We have entered what columnist Kathleen Parker calls "a political era of uninhibited belligerence," that is finding expression in sermons, at town hall meetings, on radio talk shows, even on the floor of Congress -- especially when we differ. Why are people so angry and belligerent, and so willing to express their anger publicly? Why has our civil discourse become so uncivil? What does this public anger say about our private faith? What should we do about it?
The Twitter-sized answer (with 72 characters to spare!) to the questions raised here is, "Because we're all sinners who have, and continue to, fall short of the glory of God." Our emotions run deep, and our tongue is a tough beast to tame; add to that combustible mix topics that touch on our deeply held convictions, and it's a recipe for four-alarm conflagration.
That's why the Rev. Rick Warren urged us to engage in civil discourse in his inaugural prayer. It's why the Bible, in Proverbs 15:1, says very plainly that "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." The Message paraphrase of the Scriptures puts it a little more colorfully: "A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire." Whatever the wording, though, the point is clear: We must get to a place where we can disagree about important matters without being disrespectful. God calls Christians to stand up for our convictions when they are rooted in His truths. But He also calls us to love our neighbors as ourselves. Those are not mutually exclusive exhortations.
Every human being deserves dignity and respect; that's a point we've been making as a pro-life community for decades. Unfortunately, we haven't always lived it out in our interactions with those who disagree with us. We have to remember that we all -- liberal or conservative -- are more than the sum of our positions on policy issues. It's easy to find things to argue about with someone who shares a different worldview than you do. But let's not take the easy way out. Let's look for points of mutual civility where they might be found, even if all we can do is say, "You know what, we're both created in God's image. That means we deserve each other's respect." We may not change each other's minds, but we don't have to call each other names.
In this very forum back in June, I talked to a Post staff writer about a brief conversation I had with President Obama when he kicked off his fatherhood initiative. I was impressed by what he said that day, calling men to stand up and truly be Dads to their kids. As an orphan myself, I know the hole left behind in a fatherless heart - something the president understands, too. Now, does that mean I support his policies on other issues I care deeply about, like abortion and the sanctity of marriage? No. Does that mean I will stop speaking out and even trying to defeat his policies that I think hurt families? Of course not. But as a Christian, how can I criticize the president or any political or cultural leader when I think they're wrong and not point out when I think they're right? Have we become so consumed with the idea of winning a political battle that we've lost sight of basic virtues of our faith like The Golden Rule? I certainly hope not. God expects - He demands -- more of us than that.
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Jim Daly
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September 15, 2009; 12:46 PM ET
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Posted by: paarsurrey | September 23, 2009 6:58 AM
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I read the koran and find a god that hates me - idolator, heathen, and infidel that I am. Too bad for the god of the koran. For I Love the God that is Truth. If the god of the koran can't love me because I Love Truth, that's his problem (and intolerance, and unloving nature, and demonic truth denying nature). Expunge that from the koran and you may have the beginnings of a meaningful argument for your so called merciful deity.
hariaum
Posted by: Navin1 | September 21, 2009 6:28 PM
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Posted by: tojby_2000 | September 18, 2009 9:52 AM
If your deity is omnipotent and omniscient its expectations are always met and it cannot be disappointed in any outcome it initiates. If, on the other hand, your deity is disappointed then it is a deity unworthy of worship.
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Your argument can only be held true if said deity had created only automatons that could do nothing but what was demanded of them. The love and worship of such creatures are meaningless, since they could do nothing but that. God, however, created sentient beings, gave us free will, the ability to make choices; and as such, we are capable of making decisions that do not please God______________________________________ 1. I believe you to be in error. An omniscient and omnipotent entity cannot be disappointed with outcomes it initiated and had foreknowledge of. 2. The notion of free will is only a handy trope for the followers of the Abrahamic tribes to use in order to avoid the contradictions in their theology.
Posted by: tojby_2000 | September 21, 2009 8:33 AM
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I am all for civility, but how does this writer know what "God" expects? How absurd. What arrogance. "God" is too big for us to even comprehend. Limiting the creative force(s) of the universe to what humans can conceive of is also absurd.
How about being civil because it is the honorable thin g to do, and leave "God" out of the equation?
Posted by: mtnmanvt | September 20, 2009 9:10 AM
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'The Twitter-sized answer (with 72 characters to spare!) to the questions raised here is, "Because we're all sinners who have, and continue to, fall short of the glory of God."'
Only two problems here:
1. There is no "God";
2. We're not all "sinners".
Please try again.
Posted by: norriehoyt | September 19, 2009 9:24 PM
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Hi
We all human beings are just like a family;everyone of us needs to be loved and not hated; and if there is a difference , it is most appropriate to submit our view point with logic and reason, if we are right.If we put it with anger, that means we are not our selves sure that our viewpoint is reasonable adn correct.Anger cannot and does not make other person understand its correctness.
Quran enjoins the believers in this way:
[3:135] Those who spend in prosperity and adversity, and those who suppress anger and pardon men; and Allah loves those who do good;
http://www.alislam.org/quran/search2/showChapter.php?submitCh=Read+from+verse%3A&ch=3&verse=131
I love Jesus and Mary as mentioned in Quran.
Thanks
I am an Ahmadi peaceful Muslim
Posted by: paarsurrey | September 19, 2009 9:18 AM
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God expects us to be civil? Have you read the New Testament?
Posted by: Farnaz1Mansouri1 | September 18, 2009 9:20 PM
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Posted by: tojby_2000 | September 18, 2009 9:52 AM
If your deity is omnipotent and omniscient its expectations are always met and it cannot be disappointed in any outcome it initiates. If, on the other hand, your deity is disappointed then it is a deity unworthy of worship.
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Your argument can only be held true if said deity had created only automatons that could do nothing but what was demanded of them. The love and worship of such creatures are meaningless, since they could do nothing but that. God, however, created sentient beings, gave us free will, the ability to make choices; and as such, we are capable of making decisions that do not please God
Posted by: DouginMoz | September 18, 2009 6:35 PM
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God expects us to be civil to one another? Have you read the Old Testament???
Posted by: Pamsm | September 18, 2009 1:14 PM
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Daly Headline: God Expects Us to Be Civil to Each Other______________________________ Anthropomorphism is weak tea.
If your deity is omnipotent and omniscient its expectations are always met and it cannot be disappointed in any outcome it initiates. If, on the other hand, your deity is disappointed then it is a deity unworthy of worship.
Posted by: tojby_2000 | September 18, 2009 9:52 AM
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Or, as my Mom used to say, "you catch more flies with honey than vinegar." Thank you for being one of the few sane anti-abortion people. I respectfully disagree with you on that issue, but I admire your work on behalf of children who are not just fetuses.
Posted by: Athena4 | September 17, 2009 4:32 PM
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Joe Wilson's real name is:
Addison Graves Wilson Senior
He lies when he call himself "joe".
YOU LIE!!
But seriously folks:
Policy differences don't cause people (especially a trained lawyer(liar?) and politician to burst out with an outburst. Deep emotional hatred does, possibly the kind Southern white males have demonstrated for centuries. Hmmmm.
Posted by: clearthinking1 | September 16, 2009 2:29 AM
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I find myself in agreement with Mr. Daly here, altogether. And it is the reasonable thing to do. It is also the harder thing to do, but one with a far better payoff.
Thank you for the input. Let us all try to live closer to our ideals.
Posted by: justillthen | September 15, 2009 2:52 PM
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A timely reminder to show respect when citizens across this country are fighting for government policies to reflect and respect their deeply-held convictions. So yes -- debate, call your representatives, march, go to town halls, make your voice heard. That is the AMERICAN thing to do. But... we can do all this in a respectful fashion. And I hope we all do.
Posted by: Denise9 | September 15, 2009 2:23 PM
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Make sense, Jim. Congratulations on firing Dobson's speech writer.
Posted by: coloradodog | September 15, 2009 1:51 PM
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Hi friend Navin1
I don’t think there are any hate words in Quran. If you have read the Quran, then quote from it, the text and the context. For the context of Quran, usually five preceding and five following verses should be given to understand the true meaning of a verse. Quran gives rational arguments. If God of Quran mentions the truth, which you believe in, with rational arguments; it should be accepted, in my opinion.
I love Jesus and Mary as mentioned in Quran.
Thanks
I am an Ahmadi peaceful Muslim