Brad Hirschfield
Rabbi, President of the National Jewish Center for Learning and Leadership

Brad Hirschfield

Named as one of the nation’s 50 most influential rabbis in Newsweek, and one of the top 30 “Preachers and Teachers” by Beliefnet.com.

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Religion, Violence and My Murdered Friend

Aasiya Zubair, who was murdered at the Buffalo offices of Bridges TV, was my friend and colleague. In fact, the same can be said for the man charged with her murder, her husband Mo Hassan, although we were not as close. I mention this because it is vital for anyone writing about this issue to provide personal context and bias given how this case is being politicized by so many people for so many different reasons.

Instead of working the story for the angle which "proves" what we already believe, as most people have, I wonder if we could stop blaming or defending the position we already hold and go a bit deeper. Could we not use Aasiya's death as a soap box on which to stand but as an opportunity to ask the tough questions which would make deaths like hers less likely? Nothing could be more important than that.

Of course, there is no single demon which is to blame in Aasiya's death. There is no dragon to for shining knights, be they defenders of secularism or the faith, to slay and make the whole problem of domestic violence go away. It would be so much easier if there were -- that is the appeal of all fairy tales. But there is not.

Let's be clear though, this case does have to do with religion in general and Islam in particular. This was after all, a beheading - a ritualistic form of murder. Whether this act is or is not the product of good religious jurisprudence is not the issue. If Aasiyah had been shot numerous times with a family-owned gun, it would be appropriate to discuss the problems associated with the prevalence of guns in American culture. Given that her death reflects a specific set of religious and cultural issues within Islam, it is appropriate to examine those.

Simply saying this has nothing to do with Islam and/or religion, as too many religious leaders have done, will not do. In fact, that approach creates the safe space used by those who use their faith in despicable ways to do so.

Now is the time to embrace the possibility that this was an honor killing, not because we know that it was, but because we have the opportunity to focus on the 5,000 women, a low-end estimate by the United Nations, who are killed each year for such reasons. Now is the time to focus on the connection between religion and violence, not because we know that faith was the primary, or even a secondary, motivation in her death, but because too many people die each year in the name of God and only the faithful can make that stop.

To be sure, nobody knows at this point, what was in her murderer's mind or soul when they beheaded Aasiya. But we do know that nothing provides cover for violence against people as effectively as belief in God or some redemptive ideology that is the equivalent. Of course, the same can be said for inspiring people to protect others despite the enormous danger and pain it may cause those who offer the protection. History is filled with examples of those who use religion to justify the taking of lives and also with examples of its use to justify saving them.

So at this moment, the hard secularists should back off a little, since the thing they seem most capable of doing right now is using a human tragedy to score philosophical or political points against religion. But those of us who value religion must be the toughest on its role in all forms of violence, including domestic abuse. We cannot shy away from the dangers of any system which privileges ideas over people, or places doctrine over the results that come from adherence to it. If we do not take up this cause as our own, then perhaps the secularists are correct about their being precious little difference between being religious and being an apologist.

We need religious leaders who are more concerned with the black eyes given to women by members of the faith, than the black eye given to the faith when the faithful beat their wives or commit any act of violence in God's name. We need to see religious leaders who do more than explain away the connections between faith and fighting, in the home or in the world.

We need to see religious leaders who make it clear that if you abuse your spouse, you are not going to be welcomed into the community. We will get you the help you need, we will protect your family until you are well, but we need all people to understand that whether it's called faith or culture, people who hurt their spouses will not be tolerated.

We need to do more and we need to do better. While no act can redeem Aasiya's death, we can at least commit to honoring her life's work by keeping women safer and using the faiths we love to move us in that direction. Anything less than that leaves some of the next victim's blood on our hands as well.

By Brad Hirschfield  |  February 25, 2009; 6:36 AM ET  | Category:  Morality
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ARIMINDER

You wrote, "Can you be objective? Then hear me out. All "devout" practitioners of beliefs in invisible beings are deluded".

This is merely your opinion and it happens to be false.

Since you put "devout" in quotations marks, I am curious what you mean by that.

You also wrote, " Reason doesn't matter to them, because they've been trained - or trained themselves - to reason without evidence and act without needing reason."

You seem to be confusing faith and reason, as in "faith without evidence" as opposed to "reason without evidence".

Reason happens to be very important to me and there is a reason that we have reason.

I have met God and I have met satan, so the way I see it, is God rewarded my faith by letting me know that He is Real and a Trinity and a Being of Pure Love. He also let me know that satan is real.

Besides satan being a liar and a thief, he is a loser and a sore loser at that.

Actually, you believe that God is not real, you do not know one way or the other, God knew that I needed to know that He is Real not just to believe that.

There is a difference between faith and religion.

God is a searcher of hearts and minds, not of religious affiliations or lack thereof and it is important what one does and why one does it and what one knows.

As I have said before, I do not hold it against Mohammad that he was deceived by satan. God looks at the person, not the label one applies to oneself.

Take care, be ready.

Sincerely, Thomas Paul Moses Baum.


Posted by: ThomasBaum | February 28, 2009 1:16 PM
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i am comfortable here, RAbbi Teacher. i shall have a medicine soon. thank You.

Posted by: congratulations | February 28, 2009 5:21 AM
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and also the cloth and attitudes of professors.

Posted by: congratulations | February 28, 2009 5:20 AM
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the sword, the chapter in Quran, the small paper with a text on, and to reject and disagree. Teacher, can You recollect which was which?

Posted by: congratulations | February 28, 2009 5:19 AM
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had i told You, Teacher, about Asiyah Zubair Muzzammil, what these words are? i could not find my comment in the room of Mrs Elizabeth the Guest Voice here OnFaith.

Posted by: congratulations | February 28, 2009 5:18 AM
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we thank to Anatolyevic Medvedev and Viladimir for this contribution.

Posted by: congratulations | February 28, 2009 5:09 AM
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i think the photos of the priest with his prayer wheel have been sent by Viladimir Putin.

Posted by: congratulations | February 28, 2009 5:07 AM
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i had cold last night, and i am fallen this morning. i am broken because of a dispute on the phone, the connection between the father of my so called fiancee and me has not been established fully because of teachings and problems in the family. so my voice is FA in stead of LA in the notes and music. let me have a rest before the rehearsal-ly.

Posted by: congratulations | February 28, 2009 5:04 AM
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newsweek.washingtonpost.com/onfaith/faithandhealing/2009/02/a_message_from_a_patient_and_h.html

zen is "goodness", what a scentful lovely word! we thank for this lovely meal the Students of Peter and MAtthias have sent!

essen : to dine

i thank to SAlly Quinn for this bud of virtues (dharma) and Teacher Brad Hirschfield for this room.

Posted by: congratulations | February 28, 2009 4:58 AM
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ah the violins and the strings.

http://www.milliyet.com.tr/content/galeri/yeni/goster.asp?prm=5,350453E-02&galeriid=5893

this is for the Layperson in the preceeding topic on OnFaith and Peter MAtthiessen, lifting every voice in the chorus and orchestra as has stated JAmes Alexander Forbes the Recent!

newsweek.washingtonpost.com/onfaith/guestvoices/2009/02/lifting_every_voice.html

www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/video/2008/04/16/VI2008041602291.html

Posted by: congratulations | February 28, 2009 4:52 AM
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600 million Muslim women with the exception of a lucky few like the PM of Bangladesh (the female PM of Pakistan was not so lucky) suffer 24/7 under the heels of 400 million Muslim men. This is all done via the guidance of the "worst book ever written" aka the koran. Said book was generated by the hallucinations of one long dead Arab who supposedly got his instructions from a "pretty, wingie, talking, flying, fictional thingie" named Gabriel. It all makes one scream out "THE SIGNIFICANT STUPIDITY OF IT ALL!!!!

Posted by: CCNL | February 28, 2009 12:11 AM
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Rabbi Hirschfeld, I grieve for the loss of your friend. What a terrible thing to happen to anyone.

For those of you who are condemning religion - domestic violence does not know religious boundaries. It can happen among Muslims, Christians, Jews, atheists, and even Goddess-worshipping Pagans. (I have yet to hear of a case in the Pagan community, but that doesn't mean that it's not there.) It's not religion that gives people the power over someone else, it's the low self-esteem and sickness to believe that violence solves all problems. We had a case here a few years ago where a guy dumped gasoline on his ex-wife and lit her on fire. And they were church-going Christians.

The main thing is for women to GET HELP and GET OUT of the situation. Don't think that a man is going to stop hitting you, no matter how much he apologizes. It's NOT YOUR FAULT that someone is physically or emotionally abusive - it's theirs. Protect yourself and protect your kids. Call the police. Don't take no for an answer. Call a domestic violence hotline.

Goddess bless.

Posted by: Athena4 | February 26, 2009 10:17 PM
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Can you be objective? Then hear me out. All "devout" practitioners of beliefs in invisible beings are deluded. Reason doesn't matter to them, because they've been trained - or trained themselves - to reason without evidence and act without needing reason. All they need is belief, and by definition, their belief trumps everything else. In this case, murder for Allah. Honor killing? No, idiotic, self-centered behavior. We also know Christians who lie, cheat, steal and murder for Jesus.

A pox on all such houses. In our current millenium, we can no longer afford to let "believers" get their hands on Weapons of Mass Destruction. If you don't change yourself, the human race is doomed to experience a bloodbath of unbelievable proportions. All for god, of course.

Posted by: ariminder | February 26, 2009 1:42 PM
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This says it all. Thank you.

We need religious leaders who are more concerned with the black eyes given to women by members of the faith, than the black eye given to the faith when the faithful beat their wives.

Posted by: HavennerKP | February 26, 2009 7:23 AM
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you write:"Could we not use Aasiya's death as a soap box on which to stand but as an opportunity to ask the tough questions which would make deaths like hers less likely?"

If she was your friend, did it ever occur to you or any of her other friends to offer her a safe place to stay?

Many battered women will not say anything about the battering, but will admit the problem if asked...and in this case, the police were notified...but like many abused women, she refused to press charges.

...yet no family or friends bothered to help her stay in a safe house, or give her the address of a women's shelter.

And if there were laws that allow police (rather than the victim) place charges of assault, perhaps her husband would have been stopped. Do you know if NY state has such laws?

Posted by: tioedong | February 25, 2009 5:52 PM
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All religious people are not crazy. But, let us all face the elephant in the room, that the subject of religion does often attract people who are mentally unstable, neurotic, disordered, even paranoid, even psychotic. The more Fundamentalist the religion, the more difficulty there is with this problem.

That is just a plain fact. and is common knowledge.

Posted by: DanielintheLionsDen | February 25, 2009 2:37 PM
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First, I want to congratulate Rabbi Hirschfield for addressing the issue. After his last comment on it, I fully expected him to put it on the back burner forever.

Beheading does echo stories of such deaths coming from the Muslim world, so there is a connection to Islam. It should be noted that the Koran has a verse that directly condones violence against wives and while theologians of that faith wrestle with the interpretation of which conditions warrant beating one's wife, there is no debate that the prophet's word allows it. That and the tenet that Mohammad is the last prophet whose words cannot be put aside places true believers on a slippery slope that can lead to the atrocity in Buffalo.

I would love to embrace Islam on an equal footing with all religions but the more I find out about their basic doctrine the more difficult it becomes.

Posted by: edbyronadams | February 25, 2009 12:12 PM
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