You must forgive if:
- your enemy pleads for forgiveness
- gives any signs of sincerity
- especially if she or her shows resolve to make amends or to change
You cannot FORCE forgiveness on anyone, and it is meaningless if it is only "pro forma" and generic. The forgiver-to-be must look at the other as someone who has been made in the image of God, though there are no signs of that in him or her when committing atrocity.
It is hard to measure degrees of atrociousness: all war wounds on the innocents are atrocities, so we have committed many when we bomb cities, yet we do not repent and ask for forgiveness. Yet a nation can shows signs of regard for others made in the image of
God and can seek to restore the enemy to a positive place in world society.
For the Christian, this question is most intense, since in the gospels and the New Testament letters, disciples and others are constantly asked to forgive - and not to claim innocence.
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