THE QUESTION

How can we forgive our enemies? Should we, even if they have committed atrocities?
Posted by Sally Quinn and Jon Meacham on November 14, 2007 3:20 AM

FROM THE PANEL

Margaret O'Brien Steinfels is founding co-director with her husband Peter Steinfels of Fordham University 's Center on Religion and Culture, which is dedicated to fostering dialogue on challenges posed to contemporary culture by religious faith. The "On Faith" panelist, who is Fordham's journalist-in-residence, was editor of Commonweal , an independent biweekly journal of Catholic political, religious and literary opinion for 15 years. She also co-directed "American Catholics in the Public Square," a three-year Commonweal Foundation project funded by the Pew Charitable Trusts. Steinfels has written about a variety of subjects ranging from the politics of Serbia to the politics of the Saatchi Collection. She has published articles on childcare, family issues, bioethics, religion and politics, and foreign and domestic policy. She is the author of Who's Minding the Children? The History and Politics of Day Care in America (1974).

Making a Home Away from Home

The tension and unhappiness of family gatherings can be avoided by not inviting the family! Or if family has to be there, make sure friends and neighbors out-number them.

Margaret O'Brien Steinfels, Founding co-director of Fordham University 's Center on Religion and Culture. | 0 COMMENTS
Nov 22, 2007 at 8:53 AM
"On Faith" panelist Pamela K. Taylor is co-founder of Muslims for Progressive Values and director of the Islamic Writers Alliance. She is a member of the national board of advisors to the Network of Spiritual Progressives, and served as co-chair of the Progressive Muslim Union for two years. Taylor is a strong supporter of the woman imam movement, which seeks the full participation of Muslim women in every aspect of life, including the pulpit. In July 2005, she became the first woman in centuries to officiate Friday prayers in a mosque when the United Muslim Association of Toronto and the Muslim Canadian Congress invited her to serve as guest imam. (This event followed a number of services, sermons and prayer sessions led by women held in private venues because no mosque agreed to host them.) In February 2006, when the former Grand Mufti of Marseilles visited Toronto, he requested that Taylor lead him in congregational prayer as an unequivocal demonstration of his support for female imams. Taylor has also been active in interfaith dialogue for 20 years, both in local initiatives and speaking at numerous conferences, universities, and churches. She received her MTS from Harvard Divinity School, and writes regularly on spiritual matters and the Islamic faith. She has essays in Nurturing Child and Adolescent Spirituality: Perspectives from the World's Religious Traditions (2006) and the forthcoming The Veil: Women Writers on Its History, Lore, and Politics (2007). She has written hundreds of articles and opinion pieces for newspapers, magazines, and journals, and is an award winning poet.

Forgive as You Would Like to be Forgiven

This simple request for forgiveness has always touched me as a great act of humility and a beautiful expression of a core Islamic value. That of humility.

Pamela K. Taylor, co-founder, Muslims for Progressive Values | 124 COMMENTS
Nov 19, 2007 at 4:24 PM
Martin E. Marty is Fairfax M. Cone Distinguished Service Professor Emeritus at the University of Chicago, where he taught religious history, chiefly in the Divinity School, for 35 years, and where the Martin Marty Center has been founded to promote “public religion” endeavors. For a decade prior to entering academia, the “On Faith” panelist served parishes in the west and northwest suburbs of Chicago as an ordained Lutheran pastor. Marty is the author of more than 50 books including Righteous Empire: The Protestant Experience in America (1970), for which he won the National Book Award. His additional honors include the National Humanities Medal, the Medal of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences, the University of Chicago Alumni Medal, the Distinguished Service Medal of the Association of Theological Schools, and the Order of Lincoln Medallion (Illinois’ top honor). Marty has served as president of the American Academy of Religion, the American Society of Church History, and the American Catholic Historical Association. He also has served on two U.S. Presidential Commissions and was director of the Fundamentalism Project of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences and the Public Religion Project at the University of Chicago. He is Senior Regent of St. Olaf College in Northfield, Minnesota.

You Must Forgive, If . . .

. . . your enemy pleads for forgiveness, gives any signs of sincerity, and especially if she or her shows resolve to make amends or to change.

Martin Marty, Award-winning author and professor emeritus, University of Chicago | 19 COMMENTS
Nov 19, 2007 at 8:59 AM
The Right Rev. Mark Sean Sisk has been Bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of New York, one of the Episcopal Church’s largest dioceses with over 200 congregations since 2001. Before returning to New York as Bishop Coadjutor in 1998, the "On Faith" panelist served for 14 years as President and Dean of Seabury-Western Theological Seminary in Evanston, Illinois. The bishop also worked as a parish priest for 10 years before his predecessor Bishop Paul Moore asked him to join his staff as Archdeacon of Westchester, Putnam and Rockland Counties in New York. Mission, worship and nurture are the three main focus areas of Sisk’s episcopacy. At the root of each is the promise of keeping our Lord and our faith centered in our lives while we work together to help the most vulnerable in our society. He believes that his and other moderate, socially conscious Christian viewpoints need to be heard. It is his hope to function as a bridge-builder in dealing with the important social issues confronting us as a nation. Sisk earned a degree in economics from the University of Maryland and a Masters of Divinity at General Theological Seminary in New York. He was ordained in 1967.

Forgiveness and the Path to Freedom

To forgive does not mean pretending that some evil did not happen. Nor does it mean explaining away the culprit’s responsibility.

Mark S. Sisk, Bishop, Episcopal Diocese of New York | 2 COMMENTS
Nov 19, 2007 at 7:36 AM
He also earned a doctorate in moral theology at the Pontifical University of the Holy Cross in Rome. Monsignor Bohlin was ordained a priest for the Prelature of Opus Dei in 1997. Prior to coming to New York as the head of Opus Dei in the United States, he worked for the five years with Opus Dei’s Prelate, Bishop Javier Echevarría, at Opus Dei's international headquarters in Rome as chancellor for Opus Dei. Monsignor Bohlin has spoken about faith issues on such news programs as “Hardball with Chris Matthews” and “Meet the Press.” Opus Dei has 87,000 members worldwide and 3,000 in the United States. Pope John Paul II canonized Opus Dei’s founder, Saint Josemaría Escrivá, in 2002, calling him “the saint of ordinary life."

Christ Forgave and So Should We

The perplexing question is how? You realize how difficult it is to forgive when you come up against the anger of the families of victims crying out for vengeance.

Thomas G. Bohlin, Monsignor, U.S. vicar of Opus Dei. | 15 COMMENTS
Nov 19, 2007 at 7:25 AM
The Rev. Dr. James Herbert Cooper is the 17th Rector of Trinity Church-St. Paul’s Chapel in the city of New York. Before coming to New York City, the On Faith panelist spent over 30 years as rector of Christ Church in Ponte Vedra, Fla., where he founded $52-million and $82-million nonprofit life-care facilities to assure quality of life and health care for the aging population in the region. Dr. Cooper serves on the Advisory Board for the Anglican Observer to the United Nations, Sailors’ Snug Harbor, Seamen’s Church Institute, St. Margaret’s House and John Heuss House. He has previously led on the board of directors of Florida Association of Homes for the Aging, Christ Church Foundation, Life Care Pastoral Services, FreshMinistries, United Way, Christian Healing Ministries, University of the South and Kanuga. In 2005 Cooper was bestowed an honorary doctorate from the General Theological Seminary in New York City and made Canon of the Cathedral in Jerusalem. He is a graduate of Washington & Lee University, and received his Master of Divinity and his Doctor of Ministry from the Virginia Theological Seminary. He lives in Lower Manhattan with his wife Tay and they have two grown children and two grandsons.

Forgiveness Can Transform the World

From a pastoral perspective, forgiveness can shine a light on our everyday interactions with family, friends, and coworkers.

Jim Cooper, Rector, Trinity Church, New York City | 7 COMMENTS
Nov 19, 2007 at 6:44 AM
The Rev. Dr. Samuel T. Lloyd III is the ninth dean of Washington National Cathedral. The "On Faith" panelist previously served as rector of Boston's historic Trinity Church in Copley Square for 12 years, and before that, as chaplain of the University of the South in Sewanee, Tennessee. Lloyd began his ministry as an assistant professor of religious studies at the University of Virginia in Charlottesville, where he also served as assistant to the rector and chaplain at St. Paul's Memorial Church. In 1984 he became rector of the Church of St. Paul and the Redeemer in Chicago, Illinois. Lloyd holds a Masters of Divinity degree from Virginia Theological Seminary and a doctorate in English literature from the University of Virginia. He has received honorary Doctor of Divinity degrees from the University of the South and Virginia Theological Seminary. He hosts the Cathedral's weekly, live and web-streamed Sunday Forum: Critical Issues in the Light of Faith. A leading voice for a generous-spirited Christianity, he preaches twice a month at the Cathedral, and his sermons are available online at www.nationalcathedral.org.

Simple Choice: Reconciliation or Retribution

The consequences of not forgiving are amply evident. Just look at Palestine and Israel, Rwanda, the former Yugoslavia, the Sunnis and Shias in Iraq, and Northern Ireland.

Samuel T. Lloyd III, Dean, Washington National Cathedral | 27 COMMENTS
Nov 16, 2007 at 9:04 AM
The "On Faith" panelist is a well-known evangelist, author and founding pastor of Third Day Worship Centers. He was born in Newark, N.J., and grew up in Bethlehem, Pa. He attended Penn State University and graduated from Kutztown University of Pennsylvania with a bachelor's degree in education. He earned a Master's degree in educational leadership from Lehigh University. He's also a graduate of Bethany Bible Institute. Ordained by the Assemblies of God at the age of 23, he was elected to oversee the Assemblies of God Hispanic Youth Ministries for the 17 states in the Northeast and Mid Atlantic Region. In 1997, Rodriguez assisted in a church planting initiative where he founded and provided pastoral oversight to churches in Pennsylvania and New York City. In August 2000, the Assemblies of God invited Samuel to speak at the World Pentecostal Congress, Celebration 2000, in the RCA Dome in Indianapolis. In the spring of 2001, he helped start the National Hispanic Christian Leadership Conference, which is affiliated with the National Association of Evangelicals. He is a regular speaker for Promise Keepers, the Assemblies of God, other organizations and a regular contributor to Ministry Today, Outreach, Connexion, and Enrichment Journal. He lives in Sacramento, California with this three children and his wife of 18 years, Eva. Eva is the Senior Pastor of an Assemblies of God Church, Christian Worship Center

Forgiveness without Justice Grants Evil Clemency

Nations launch wars, governments persecute, institutions reinforce hatred, but the children of God forgive.

Samuel Rodriguez, president, National Hispanic Christian Leadership Conference. | 17 COMMENTS
Nov 16, 2007 at 8:51 AM
"“On Faith”" panelist John Shelby Spong served as Bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of Newark for 24 years before his retirement in 2000. His books, seeking to make contemporary theology accessible to lay readers, have sold over a million copies. His latest book, The Sins of Scripture: Exposing the Bible's Texts of Hate to Discover the God of Love (2005), examines the holy book of the Judeo-Christian tradition. A committed Christian who has spent a lifetime studying the Bible and whose life has been deeply shaped by it, Spong has been a visiting lecturer at universities, Including Harvard, and churches worldwide, delivering more than 200 public lectures each year to standing-room only crowds. His best-selling books include Rescuing the Bible from Fundamentalism, A New Christianity for a New World, Why Christianity Must Change or Die, and Here I Stand.

Unconditional Forgiveness

Vengeance, revenge, the desire to get even – these are the responses of people who do not understand how fragile civilization is.

John Shelby Spong, Former Bishop, Episcopal Diocese of Newark | 125 COMMENTS
Nov 15, 2007 at 9:01 AM
"On Faith" panelist Starhawk is a prominent voice in modern Wiccan spirituality and cofounder of Reclaiming (www.reclaiming.org), an activist branch of modern Pagan religion. She is the author or coauthor of ten books, including The Spiral Dance: A Rebirth of the Ancient Religion of the Great Goddess (1979) --considered an essential text for the Neo-Pagan movement--and the novel The Fifth Sacred Thing (1993) . Her works have been translated into Spanish, French, German, Danish, Dutch, Italian, Portuguese, Polish, Greek, Japanese, and Burmese. Many of Starhawk's political essays were collected into her book Webs of Power: Notes from the Global Uprising . Her newest book is The Earth Path: Grounding Your Spirit in the Rhythms of Nature . Starhawk has also recorded several tapes and CDs; most recently Wicca for Beginners (2002), Wiccan Rituals and Blessings (2003), and a four-CD set Earth Magic (2006), all produced by Sounds True. She consulted on and contributed to three films known as the Women's Spirituality series, directed by Donna Read for the National Film Board of Canada: Goddess Remembered, The Burning Times, and Full Circle . Committed to bringing the techniques and creative power of spirituality to political activism, Starhawk travels internationally teaching magic, the tools of ritual, and the skills of activism.

Forgiveness and Learning

The Goddess does not preside over a system of reward and punishment. Our framework for spiritual growth and ethical behavior is one of learning

Starhawk, Co-founder, Reclaiming | 107 COMMENTS
Nov 15, 2007 at 8:58 AM
As editor of the Catholic weekly magazine "America" (americamagazine.org), Rev. Thomas J. Reese promoted discussion on current issues facing the Catholic Church and the world. The "On Faith" panelist is author of Inside the Vatican: The Politics and Organization of the Catholic Church. Father Reese is frequently quoted as an expert on Catholic issues. He is a senior fellow at the Woodstock Theological Center at Georgetown University, where he is working on religion and politics. Besides his theological training as a Jesuit priest, he has a doctorate in political science from the University of California Berkeley. He once worked as a lobbyist for tax reform.

WWJD? Forgive

As Christians, we must love the sinner, but we must also protect society from the sinner.

Thomas J. Reese, S.J., Senior fellow Woodstock Theological Center, Jesuit priest | 10 COMMENTS
Nov 15, 2007 at 8:10 AM
Rev. Susan Brooks Thistlethwaite is president of Chicago Theological Seminary and senior fellow at the Center for American Progress. She has been a professor of theology at the seminary for 20 years and director of its graduate degree center for five years. Her area of expertise is contextual theologies of liberation, specializing in issues of violence and violation. An ordained minister of the United Church of Christ since 1974, the “On Faith” panelist is the author or editor of thirteen books and has been a translator for two translations of the Bible. Her works include Casting Stones: Prostitution and Liberation in Asia and the United States (1996) and The New Testament and Psalms: An Inclusive Translation (1995). Since the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks, Thistlethwaite has been working diligently to promote peace, including a presentation at the U.S. Institute of Peace, which appears in one of their special reports. Most recently she edited and contributed to Adam, Eve and the Genome: Theology in Dialogue with the Human Genome Project (2003).

The Great Secret of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the path to freedom from being dominated by the harm that has been done to you or to those you love.

Susan Brooks Thistlethwaite, President, Chicago Theological Seminary | 20 COMMENTS
Nov 15, 2007 at 7:03 AM
Susan Jacoby is the author of The Age of American Unreason. She began her writing career as a reporter for The Washington Post, and has been a contributor to a wide range of periodicals and newspapers for more than 25 years on topics including law, religion, medicine, aging, women's rights, political dissent in the Soviet Union and Russian literature. Jacoby has been the recipient of grants from the Guggenheim, Rockefeller and Ford Foundations, as well as the National Endowment for the Humanities. In 2001-2002, she was named a fellow at the Center for Scholars and Writers at the New York Public Library. Jacoby’s other books include Freethinkers: A History of American Secularism (2004); Wild Justice: The Evolution of Revenge, a Pulitzer Prize finalist in 1984, and Half-Jew: A Daughter's Search for Her Family's Buried Past. She is working on a book about the relationship between American anti-intellectualism and political polarization, to be published by Pantheon in 2008. Her photo is by Chris Ramir.

The Cheapening of Forgiveness

There are unforgivable offenses, for which the withholding of forgiveness is a perfectly appropriate response. Unending, corrosive hatred is not the only alternative.

Susan Jacoby, Author and reporter | 204 COMMENTS
Nov 14, 2007 at 3:08 PM
Syndicated political columnist and “On Faith” panelist Cal Thomas has a twice-weekly column that appears in over 500 newspapers around the world. A graduate of American University, Thomas is a veteran of broadcast and print journalism. He has worked for NBC, CNBC, PBS television, and the Fox News Channel where he currently appears on the weekly media critique show, “Fox News Watch.” Thomas has authored ten books, including Blinded by Might: Can the Religious Right Save America?, A Freedom Dream, Public Persons and Private Lives, Book Burning, Liberals for Lunch, Occupied Territory, The Death of Ethics in America, Uncommon Sense and Things That Matter Most. His latest was The Wit and Wisdom of Cal Thomas. In 1995, Thomas was honored with a Cable Ace Award nomination for Best Interview Program. Other awards include a George Foster Peabody team reporting award, and awards from both the Associated Press and United Press International. Common Ground, which Thomas writes for USA Today, offers insightful discussion of contentious social issues with his friend and political counterpart, Bob Beckel. The two are working together on a book to be published in 2007.

Enemies and Whether to Love Them

About the terrorists who wish to destroy us, I intend to resist them until they give up trying to kill me. Then I will try to love them.

Cal Thomas, Syndicated political columnist | 119 COMMENTS
Nov 14, 2007 at 7:04 AM
An ordained United Church of Christ and American Baptist minister, "On Faith" panelist Dr. Willis E. Elliott has been a pastor, teacher, lecturer, administrator, consultant (to Newsweek for 38 years), church executive, and the author of six books. His five earned degrees in religion include a PhD, University of Chicago, where he was divinity research librarian. He taught in colleges, seminaries, & universities--including the University of Hawaii, where he taught "The World's Great Religions" and "Religion and the Meaning of Existence." At the 1966 Triennium of the National Council of Churches, he was the interlocutor with Billy Graham.

"The Final Form of Love"

My willingness to forgive is to be so overwhelming that I stand in the way of my enemies’ getting their “just deserts,

Willis E. Elliott, Minister, teacher, author | 26 COMMENTS
Nov 14, 2007 at 6:44 AM
Rajan Zed is a well-known Hindu leader. He is a Hinduism teacher, serves on various boards of directors, and is a Hindu chaplain in northwestern Nevada and adjoining California. He delivered the historic first Hindu opening prayer in United States Senate in Washington. He earned an MBA and Master of Science in Mass Communications.

Forgiveness is Powerful

Forgiveness is godly. Forgiveness is a virtue. Forgiveness is holiness. Forgiveness is powerful. Forgiveness is peace. Ancient Hindu scripture Bhagavad-Gita says, “Develop purity, forgiveness, vigor, patience, a good will, and avoid pride—these are the riches of the person who is...

Rajan Zed, Hindu chaplain in Nevada, California. | 19 COMMENTS
Nov 14, 2007 at 4:41 AM

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» Athena | I think that the 12-step model, as pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous, provides an excellent framework for atonement and forgiveness. You take a "sea...
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» Concerned The Christian Now Liberated | Some words of wisdom before the orthodox Christians start thumping the NT: Did Jesus really die for our sins/crimes? If so, God the Father (if He ex...
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